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Back to Blog. Without question, one of the biggest hurdles in a divorce is how to deal with shared custody of children. In many post-dissolution relationships, custody disputes are the gifts that just keep on giving. When parents split up, there are almost always shifts in thinking about the tacit agreements made about your kids during marriage. Decisions regarding which school your children will attend, in which extracurricular activities they will participate, whether or not they will go to sleep away summer camp, be allowed to use a cell phone, receive allowance, or even pierce their ears, all become major battles that can open whole new channels of hatred and discord between you and your co-parent.
Co-parenting with an ex whom you remain on decent terms with is hard enough. How are you supposed to co-parent with an asshole?
Read on to find out! Protect your children while you're divorcing with a temporary custody agreement. This handy resource outlines the days and times your children will be with you and your spouse and helps you create a t decision-making system you can both live with. On the other hand, certain situations call for confrontation. Now, this is worth discussion with your co-parent! The divorce process is long, and usually takes months or longer to complete.
A good way to formalize your co-parenting and custody agreement before you complete the divorce is to create a Temporary Custody and Co-Parenting Plan with your spouse. This is an effective way to outline the days and times your children will spend with you and your spouse, and creates a collaborative t-decision making agreement in advance of the final divorce. You can incorporate this preliminary agreement into the more formal one that will be created in your final divorce settlement.
Why is it so hard for parents to get on the same when it comes to raising their children? Whatever the reason, you cannot go running back to court for every infraction. Even if you could, many of the issues co-parents face are not enforceable by a court. These include religion, academics, and Asshole ex husband matters the immunization debate continues, despite the laws enacted in many states that make it so ALL children must be vaccinated in order to attend public and private schools. Please note, however, that bringing in a judge is a costly endeavor.
My office often advises parents to work with a co-parenting counselor who can help resolve difficult issues without the need for court intervention.
Better communication tools, compromise, and input from a neutral third party are all you need to come to an agreement in certain situations. Many jurisdictions also give parties the ability to stipulate or agree to let the court appoint a Special Master or Parenting Plan Coordinator, who has the discretion to make binding decisions on limited issues surrounding custody. The legal nitty-gritty of co-parenting is crucial, but this article is really about the everyday coping you do with your fellow co-parent who has equal power to you, yet completely different ideologies about the most important beings in your universe.
The title of the essay harkened back to when she was a kid, after her parents had split up.
She and her sister spent Wednesdays and alternate weekends with their dad, who would let them wear make-up and stay up as late as they wanted, talking on their princess phone and watching TV in their room. He never made them cook or help clean up because they mostly went out to eat, and he had a housekeeper who came three days a week. There were chores, a curfew, and lots of yelling, eye rolling, and door slamming.
The parent who said no. The parent who often cried herself to sleep because she was certain that her daughters hated her, loved their dad more, and would ultimately want whomever he ended up with to be their mom. They knew who made it all happen. Their mom was their rock, their safe place, and when they became parents themselves, they wanted to be just like her. Stay healthy.
Try not to let toxicity infect your custodial time or your parenting experience. Roll with the punches, as much as is reasonably possible, and see whether you can turn negative experiences into opportunities to teach your child something valuable. If you up and pay for piano lessons, and your ex continuously fails or refuses to facilitate practice or to take your child to the lessons on their days, learn from the experience.
When scheduling the next activity, see whether the class or instructor can be flexible and offer alternate weeks, so you can go on your days only and not have to depend on anyone else. At a certain point, your kids will be of an age where they can take some responsibility for their commitments.
As a result, she co-parented with a vengeance. At the outset, Cyrus would get frustrated, Asshole ex husband his ex about what an asshole she was, and let her behavior set the course for his precious time with their son. Through this process, Cyrus taught his son, at a relatively early age, an important lesson in how to plan ahead and stay organized.
Now, his year-old has gone off to university as an incredibly well-adjusted college student who is prepared, responsible, and makes a mean checklist. Navigating the obstacle course of co-parenting can be exhausting. But as they say, parenting is the best job you will ever have, and co-parenting can be just as rewarding when approached with the right mentality. If you cannot adjust and adapt to the daily trials and tribulations, you are short-changing your child and yourself.
Then, think about how happy you are that your interactions with this person are limited to those that involve your offspring. Do your best to get through them with grace and strength of character. Laura A. Wasser, Esq. She is the preeminent voice across the media landscape in newsworthy matters regarding Divorce and Family Law.
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